My
sister-in-law was diagnosed with cancer a while ago. It was APL (Acute promyelocytic
leukemia (a subtype of acute myelogenous leukemia (AML), or stated briefly: a
cancer of the white blood cells.)) It was a whirlwind of emotions from the
diagnosis, her being rushed to the hospital, coming to terms with what it was
and meant, remission, having the cancer come back, watching her suffer, and
finally watching her go through remission again.
Hospitalized 2013 Photo 8" x 10" |
My sister-in-law
handled the cancer quite well actually; she felt it was all part of a grander
and more celestial plan but those around her struggled. I’ve never been good at
dealing with the suffering of others. When it’s in their head I feel that I can
do something but when their body is the problem I feel at a loss. I can sit
there and tell them I’m sorry for them but I can’t heal their broken bones,
keep them from dying, or in this case cure her cancer. I felt useless and like
a hindrance whenever I was around her. I became guarded partly from not knowing
what to do and also from my extreme discomfort of hospitals and doctors. Our
once close relationship started to fray as we became distant.
So what was
I to do? I couldn’t help her, I couldn’t help the family, I couldn’t help
financially so I turned to the one thing I knew; art. At least there I could
capture my feelings and make them more tangible even if it was just for my own
benefits. It was actually a really interesting experience for me in regards to
inspiration because for the vast majority of my artwork I find total
inspiration within the confines of my own head. It’s not that I’m egotistical
or narcissistic-the experiences in my life have always just provided me with enough
fuel for my artistic fire. This whole experience took that in a different
direction as I centered my artwork around the life of another. Since I've known her she has had long, beautiful hair (reaching down to her lower back). She was extremely attached to it so the prospect of losing it due to chemotherapy was daunting for those around her. It was almost more significant in my artwork than her face itself (which often times wasn't even her face) because to me it was so closely entwined with her personality.
Cancer is terrible. I know some feel it's a blessing in disguise but I don't; I think it's horrible and I’m truly sorry
that she had to go through this experience. One of the few good thing (for me) to come from this
was a series of images I had of her. At one point of our relationship I felt
that we were really close and that we had a good connection but over the years
it’s almost completely disintegrated. For me it seemed as if the deterioration
of our friendship was a delayed response to her body’s deterioration.
She was just
released from the hospital with a clean bill of health (as healthy as you can
be with hardly any immune system) and we’re all hoping this time is the final
time she’ll have to go through this. This post is somewhat of a tribute to
her-like if I put this out into the universe it can somehow help keep her
cancer at bay. So here’s to you Sheila and anybody else whose life has been
touched by cancer. All I can offer you is my artwork-which is honestly the most
personal thing I could ever give someone.
Sheila (Blue/Grey Version) 2013 Intaglio Print 4" x 6" |